LET THE DEVIL KNOW, NOT TODAY.

Hi everyone! Hope you've had a good week despite the circumstances you might have been facing.

Last time we talked a bit about being able to stand on your own legs and realizing that the problems we have is rather physical than mental. Some of you might be pissed of what I'm writing here but maybe this is what you need, a straight up truth. I believe that despite our differences we do have one thing that is very central with GAD and that's fear. Fear of moving forward with jobs, family, different types of relationships.. You name it! 

Fear can make us feeling comfortable with our present situation or it can be harmful for the reason that it becomes a small room with no space for developing your true self! That's what you have to remember that, this is not you. 

I try to see my fear as an asset rather than the opposite. Small steps, that's all you have to think about everyday. Take one day at a time. Maybe you walk your dog, maybe you decide to workout or seeing a friend that you haven't been seeing for a while. It doesn't matter what you do as long as you do SOMETHING. Make life an asset, not a disadvantage. 

You might be wondering where I'm going with this.. well, despite our differences we strive for a life with full capacity, right? Maybe some of you have gotten use to your situation and that's pretty common but don't stay on your side of the fence, make a way over that fence. You may feel like shit for a while but it's well worth it, I promise you because I have been there myself. 

GOOGLE IS THE BEST SOURCE, IF YOU'RE THINKING ABOUT DYING!

I think we all can put our hands up when I say that Google is the best website if you want to find all answers but yet, only bad answers. What builds me is not the same as saying to one another ”Hah! I told you”. I think that what builds us is a convincing peace that makes us feel calm and not walking around being worried all the time. 

I think the biggest problem with anxiety disorders is that we don’t feel convinced but why not focus on what life really is and not on how it actually feels like!? I believe that if you focus on just becoming the best version of you and set up goals, you will make it. I have seen it, I’ve felt it and I know it. 

Like I said before, small steps lead to big change. Handling the everyday life is not about getting through the day, many people would say that but I don’t. I say, the day has to get you through because there is a lot of things you can do to make the days count. Do the things you think is important to you, don’t listen to how you feel, do it anyway. To push through and taking control is not the same as putting yourself at risk. 

With confidence you can pull of anything if you want to, that’s what dealing with anxiety really is, looking at it for what it really is but put negative thoughts aside and move forward, not backwards. The more you move backwards the more harder it will be to get where you want to be. If we stay on our side of the fence, we will never know what it would feel like climbing over that fence, we maybe think that we know but we don’t. Take the chances! Most of the things we are worried about never happens. 

Much love / James

BREAK THE PATTERNS OF BAD HABITS!

Hope you’ve had a great weekend! Maybe some of you have and maybe some of you haven’t, but that is okay as long as it doesn’t stay that way. 
Like I said last time, you have to dig yourself up. 

You can look at a pattern like a comfort zone or it can grow into a circle of evil. I never understood the patterns I lived with because I was in the middle of it all and instead of moving into a direction, I was stuck in a roundabout. Moving slowly in the roundabout is important so you can find a way out. 

What do I mean about this? Well, if you’re lost in your mind then it’s usually hard to find your way out.  How do I find a way out? 
The first thing that you can do is to slow yourself down from bit to bit. It’s like a cake, you take one bite and eat it, then it’s less pieces left. Decide and try to figure out what you want to deal with first. 

If I would try to pick something out it would be;

1. Listen to what others have to say. You can choose to make the words valuable, that’s how you stay in one direction. 
2. make small turns, if you have to make changes with friendships, do it. You do this for you, not for others sake. It’s very important to have friends that have an impact in your life and play a big part in it. 
3. Change routine! It’s easy to stay in your lane because it feels good but staying in your lane just makes you feel the same as always.

Make this day count! Much love / James

WE ALL HAVE DIFFERENT WAYS TO HANDLE OUR EVERYDAY LIFE

For many years I considered myself being empty but I never knew for sure what that emptiness was about. Was it me that caused this? Was it someone else? I guess I dug to deep.

When you're in a hole you don't want to dig deeper, right? The only way to get back up is to fill that hole to get higher. The question is: what do we fill that hole with? For me it's a lot about having an attitude of that it's not always bad because people that are diagnosed with GAD tend to feel sorry for themselves very often. "I feel so bad!" "I don't have any friends" Guess who I am quoting? ;) Honestly, the only person that can get you up in these situations is You. Friends are very important in this matter, don't get me wrong but they can't fix your problems.

For a couple of months ago I wouldn't be sitting here writing a bunch of stuff about how I think you should reason. It's hard being stuck in your own mind, I get that! So what do we do when we feel low? Don't dig deeper, fill the hole up! With what? You can do many things and reason in different ways in this situation. It's like learning how to ride a bike. You don't know how to ride a bike until you find balance. "Balance my way through life?" Sounds cheesy, I know! Put it this way: The small steps are very important, maybe not when you look at one step at a time but when you sum it all up, they all matter.

The first step is always the most difficult one but it's what you decide to do when you're taking the first step that will show what you're willing to sacrifice to feel better. If you want something that you've never had you must do something you never have done. You need to ask yourself "Do I want to lift my leg up to get to the other side of the bike or do I want to stay where I am because it feels better and more comfortable?" If you don't take the small steps, the big ones wont matter because it will be too overwhelming and too much to handle. Small steps can lead to big change in the long run.

I challenge you to take small steps of faith this week knowing that you will conquer in life at the end of the day because you will. Not your disorder, YOU. Because you are made for better than your disorder. You can have a huge impact on the people around you although you may feel bad. Decide to make every day count even if you feel that you've failed. The feeling of failure will never strike you if your determination of succeeding is stronger.


I hope this will inspire you to make great choices in both good and bad days. I wish you all a good day! If you have any questions let me know. Would love it if you'd share this blog so it can come to use for others as well.

Much love / James

WHAT IS GAD?

GAD (Generalized anxiety disorder) is diagnosed after six months of consistent symptoms such as: 

Nausea, numbness, muscle tension, muscle aches, difficulty concentrating, insomnia etc etc.

It's very hard to point out what may be hard for one and another but these are some of the most common symptoms. Keep in mind that this is something a psychologist must investigate, it can be quite harmful for people with a big fantasy to put a diagnose on themselves because it's easy to create illusions about the worst case scenario. 

If you recognize these symptoms in your everyday life or in someone else's life, make sure you get the help you need because there is help for you.